Why do Intelligent People Still Believe in religion? 38:Heritage and bad habits | GinaConspiracy
On an internet Forum I was on at one point, A girl asked an open question because she was very confused about her heritage She was from New York city, her Father was Italian, her mother was a Jew
Because of this mixing she wasn't treated as a real member of their culture by either side of the family I'm sure most of you older and some younger mixed race peoples watching have experienced this exact same thing The desire to be part of something bigger is ingrained deeply into all of us Its how we survived, evolved and thrived as social creatures as opposed to solitary ones First layer is your family, that's probably the strongest
BionicDance has discussed common phenomena that children that orphaned and adopted seem to have a serious void emotionally growing up sometimes even if their adoptive parents provide all the emotional support possible What do children do when they feel that void? Like an imaginary friend they often make it up and create a mythology about their past and family, most often that their parents are aliens from out space or they are the children of royalty or celebrities they look up to I'm sure orphans in polytheism believe that they were the children of gods perhaps ingraining orphans so much into our ancient myths The next layer is your heritage and culture How your ancestor's did things, how they worshiped and believed, how they dressed
Many times people fall in love with the idea of their culture and become tribalistic in it even if they only take a stereotype of it Religion can often be interchanged with culture, and depending on the area, one can be more important than the other Lastly is nationalism, the belief that your country is the greatest ever, lucky you just so happened to be born there There are good and bad things about these connections and loyalties Many times they give you a sense of belonging, they give you a link to the past, it makes you feel like you are and will be more driven to all work together toward the same goal and there is often a lot of aesthetics in the culture
There are many downsides though The concept that blood is thicker than water can cause you to give a free pass to someone who is one of your group, while judging someone who is outside of your group more harshly There may be something your family or culture does that it seriously messed up, an inaccurate way of thinking about reality, much more inefficient, or creates bad habits that can be detrimental Every culture has these, no exceptions I love it when I hear or see something foreign that is just off the wall weird to me, my first joking reaction is something along the lines of “What the hell is wrong with Japanese people?” Then I immediately have to remind myself of something America does that is just as crazy and realize that we're all fucked up equally
However a person without this ability to remind themselves would stop at the part of “What the hell is wrong with these people?” then go on to assume that they are superior to these people Every group has weird ideas, our cultures evolve, some faster, some better, some worse than others, but all with flaws You take a group of people and isolate them and come back just years later and they will have evolved a culture quite different from the one they came from, while keeping much of the same culture Take a big city and mix in a lot of people from all spectrums of culture and over time some parts of the culture will mix and some wont, it will be a free market of memes and new ideas will emerge When a child is born, they are blank slate
They are ready to be filled with ideas From their parents they learn a basic gridwork, an operative system of ways to think Every one of these has both good and bad parts to it You will never hear an OS user say there is nothing wrong with the system they are using, they will just say that they prefer it or it has less bugs than the other system With this operating system they will wrap their perception of the world around it
Parents habits good or bad are considered normal and the best way to do something Their culture, nation, and religion are the best ones of course If drinking is a big part of tradition and family, your chances of becoming an alcoholic may be higher If you come from a overweight family, being heavy, eating poorly and abundantly is ingrained and rarely questioned, its just unconscious habit and changing it would require a major reason That's just how its done
I used to refer to these ingrained habits as psychogenetics, though genomemetics might be a better term I'm sure there is a psychology term for it, let me know if there is Heritable Conditioning? If you are isolated from other ways of thinking, such as if you are home schooled and your only way to meet other people is church, it will be even harder wrap your mind around how someone else thinks Amish kids are at a certain age allowed to go sow their wild oats, and rebel and do what they want in society Because they only know how to think inside their cultural operating system, most go back to their families after their experience because they really can't fit in
Its another reason why people say with their abusive family members or significant others, there is that loyalty bond and breaking it might mean they have to learn to change their operating system of habits In Europe where there is not a lot of room to move around, having a conversation next to someone at a urinal is perfectly natural In the US its gay! If you have to option you always leave a space between urinals In Russia, wearing a speedo is considered sexy and manly, here its GAY! In the middle east and many other parts of the world holding hands and kissing another man on the cheek is a sign of deep friendship, here its GAY! In many countries, best male friends cuddle, here that is like like the ultimate in gayness Of course if you shower or change in a towel in the locker room in private you are considered a little weirdo, probably also gay
I guess anything to do with sports automatically gets a no-homo pass here in the US Some of these traditions sound like beautiful expressions of friendship, but I have been so ingrained to the American Operating system, I'm pretty sure I would never feel anything but awkward holding hands or cuddling with a guy Many times part or the majority of ones family might have psychological problems that gets ingrain on a child's operating system of thinking Family members of a person with OCD have many times gone along and emulated their loved one's rituals, treating them as absolutely normal If isolated enough generations later they could still be doing the same thing even if none of them have the psychological problem just because it seems so normal, and new is scary
Many people think that this form of habit passed psychosis is how many religions came about Hypersegregation is a big problem in the poorer areas of the US and the world Success is learned and requires role models or that tiny outlier group that used trial and error to succeed Most people don't want to leech off of society, healthy people do not want to sit around and be lazy They don't want to end up in jail
However in very poor areas, that isn't even questioned, that is just normal Prison is like a right of passage, welfare is what their mother did and they were raised with 10 other kids on it so without malice that’s all they know Had that mother been given psychological help, and not just drugs but therapy, she possibly wouldn't have had all of those kids, and her kids would have had a better chance at moving beyond their parent, but now that mindset is passed on, one of being at the bottom rung of society is normal Of course the cycle is rarely broken and the more scarce way out become the more the cycle continues People prefer to judge them, and punish them instead of understand them
San Quentin had one of the best and lowest recitivism rate in the nation in the 70's because they realized that most of the people in their prison had no real social skills so when they got out they couldn't get a job no matter how hard they tried So they taught classes in it and other forms of therepy Funds got cut of course with the mantra of being tough on crime and why should they get to have that money spent on them, they should be suffering, while they were they were suffering from mental disorders of either their own or from their parents Changing your thinking from a different way than you were raised is rough It is part of the very core operating system of your being
Its the frame you think in and can be convinced with If a person believes something different from you, many times even if they have all the evidence on their side, getting your brain to wrap around their way of thinking blows your mind, why most people don't even try Its why us who are ex-religious tend to be obsessed with arguing the god question, and people born atheists tend to be completely apathetic about it I am still going through after 10 years of atheism and learning things about the epistemology of science and reality I should have know but was completely oblivious to because my core operating system I was programmed with was one of gullibility, faith, pseduo-science and conspiracy It makes me wonder how much better I would be at science and maybe have my PhD now making real money
My unique perspective does put me in the position to teach others about my old operating system of though, but sadly its not really rolling in any money So what did I tell the Italian/Jewish girl who felt left out? I told her that all culture had their wonderful and completely messed up parts Reject the bad and wholeheartedly embrace the good The great thing about America is that most of us are mutts, we have the ability the create and recreate ourselves and are not stuck in a stereotype unless we let ourselves be You will probably never be accepted by your family completely as one on them, but you will at some point find a group of people who accept you for who you are and love you for who you are and you will belong, not because they are blood, but because you are you
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