Is It Okay To Fake An Orgasm? | GinaConspiracy
– Is it wrong to fake an orgasm? (moaning) – Oh my (moaning) – What in the f– – That one wasn't real, no way
– Let's find out Take a look around the internet, it's definitely a thing There are many articles and studies that document the orgasm gap happening in the bedroom BuzzFeed dot com polled over 200,000 people and 35% admit to frequently faking orgasms during sex If all this faking is happening, what's it like for the other person? Can they tell? I put together an audio example of some sexy sounds to see if my co-workers could tell if it's fake or not
(moaning) – She sounds bored – No, doesn't sound real (moaning) – No, that was fake That sounded like someone eating a sandwich – Oh my God, is this an orgy? (moaning) Like how many people are on this (laughs)? – With the first audio example, admittedly, pretty fake sounding
Most people could tell it was fake, but the second one seemed a little more convincing (moaning and heavy breathing) (snickers) (heavy breathing, erotic moans) – Yeah, I think that's real – So, what happens in a relationship if one person is faking and the other person can't tell? Is this ultimately bad for their sex life? I decided to ask an expert to find out more Dr Jennifer Berman, thank you so much for joining me
What makes you an expert in discussing orgasms? – Well, I've had a lot of them I wouldn't say I'm an expert in orgasms, but I'm definitely an expert in sexual health of which orgasms are part – Why would someone fake an orgasm? – There's a lot of pressure on women to be responsive, to make the man feel good – It's not necessarily who I was with 'cause I feel like I faked it with people who I've been in relationships with, I've faked it with people who like I saw for like a minute – The foreplay wasn't exactly what it should've been, so the experience was just kinda like after a while, I need to get over with this
– He made it such an important thing and I just didn't have good communication with him at the time to be like "This isn't everything, like chill" So, it was the only way to ever, like, finish it – Does orgasm faking happen the same amount in heterosexual relationships as in LGBT relationships? – It's two women, do they still feel that same pressure? – I date women (laughs) Some time, it's gonna happen One of you are gonna be on a different wavelength and you just wanna please them, not to get things over with but literally just to like make them feel better about themselves in this situation
– I remember once I told a partner, "Hey, I didn't get off yet," and afterward, she was just so offended and shocked and afraid to touch me again, and you don't wanna hurt someone so you fake it – It's not just women that fake orgasms Men are inclined to fake it at times as well – Sometimes, you're feeling it and sometimes, you're not Not that I wasn't into her, I just wasn't into it, like, at that moment
I was like, "Man, I'm not really feeling this "It's not really gonna happen" – Things just weren't really going well relationship-wise and I think that reflects the sex – No, we moved through it We dated for a while after that, but I will say that she never let me forget it
– Is faking orgasm problematic in relationships? – Being enthusiastic, perhaps, not in an authentic reflex way, but through motions of your body, through your breath, through your noises, is reinforcing in and of itself Do that and do that robustly and do that happily, but when you feel pressure to have to pretend that something happened to your body, that you're pleased in a way that you're not and not being authentic to yourself and your partner, I do think that that can lead to problems over time – So, faking the short-term, all good, but faking in the long-term can be a problem After going through this investigation, it made me think about my own relationship of four years I realized I've never had an open discussion with my girlfriend about the orgasm gap
Was it happening with us? It was time to ask the tough questions Hi, Gina – Hi, Alex – Is there any time that you have faked with me? – Yeah, probably, in the beginning, but as our relationship has grown, we have to be in tune If we're both having good days, then it's gonna be awesome
– Yeah, it is Usually, I'm so in my head about what I can be doing – Don't be in your head Be in your body Be in my body
– (stuttering) I plan on it I love you, boo Thanks for talking with me – I love you, too – Overall, the orgasm gap seems to be present in every relationship, but how each partner addresses it matters
Open and honest communication with your partner builds trust and intimacy which means better chances of sharing the big O or O's (island music)
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