How to Achieve a Female Orgasm | GinaConspiracy
In today's YouTube video We're talking all about the female orgasm specifically, how to have one if you've never had one before Hi everyone, I'm Kasey Lafferty Registered Psychotherapist and Registered Marriage and Family Therapist and I specialize in sex therapy As a sex therapist, my goal is to help my clients have more fulfilling sex lives however that may look to them First things first, let's define what a female orgasm is: A female orgasm is a series of involuntary muscular contractions that occur in your pelvic area
You may get an orgasm through different ways such as clitoral stimulation, which is the most common way to achieve orgasm through g spot stimulation, or by consciously and unconsciously flexing your pelvic muscles A lot of people want to differentiate between different types of orgasms but regardless of where you experience the orgasm or how you come to climax it's always defined as a series of involuntary muscular contractions Our bodies are complex To achieve an orgasm our brain, our breathing and our muscles all need to work together So, if you're having difficulty or if you've never achieved an orgasm that's OK! That's exactly why we are here to learn Working to achieve female orgasm is all about practicing and playing I'm going to suggest that you practice and play alone So that way, you can fully explore yourself without having to worry about any sort of distractions or having to please anyone else The first thing that you're going to want to do is to get comfortable Find a nice, quiet place where you know you're going to have the privacy to explore your body and play The second thing that you're going to want to do is to quiet your mind
A lot of women report that they feel distracted or stuck in their own heads when they're engaging sexually This not only makes it harder to enjoy yourself but can actually make it harder to achieve orgasm It's important to remember that sex is not only "down there" it's also "in here" By quieting your mind you're going to make it easier for yourself to be able to engage and enjoy the experience The third thing that you're going to want to do is is to use lubricant Not only around your vulva, but also in your vaginal opening if you're going to be exploring there This is your time to practice and play so it's important to use whatever tools you need to feel comfortable and to enhance your experience The fourth thing you're going to want to do is to start inviting those sexy thoughts As our brain is one of the most important tools in sex it's important to start engaging it Now that you've made it this far, start exploring your body! Touch your clitoris touch your lips go inside your vagina This is like you being a researcher collecting all this information about your body Take note of what feels good Take note of what doesn't feel good All of this information is ultimately going to help you As you continue to explore what I want you to do is to start flexing your pelvic muscles even rocking back and forth as you're doing this Eventually, start incorporating some deep breathing don't forget- it's our pelvic muscles, our deep breathing our brains and the motions that we're doing on our bodies, the pressure that we're applying that is all going to help us achieve orgasm
When you're ready, I want you to focus directly on your clitoris whether it's with your finger, your hand, with a vibrator As you're doing it, continue to flex your pelvic muscles and continue to breathe deeply What we're looking to do here is to build up to those involuntary muscular contractions Also known as your orgasm! It's important to note that some women will find that as they're doing this exercise they may go numb or they may build up to something and then all of a sudden lose momentum This is ok- keep going switch it up if you need to try new positions try new toys try new motions Anything that you can do just keep going! and finally, the last and most important step is to keep practicing! There is no right or wrong way to achieve orgasm whether it's with your hand, with a toy or with a showerhead However you do it is great Just remember that what works well for you may not work well for someone else and what works well for someone else may not work well for you This is why we practice and play so that we can learn about our bodies and achieve sexual satisfaction If you liked this video don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel for new videos coming soon! Follow me on Twitter @KaseyLafferty on Instagram: KaseyLafferty on Facebook: KLTherapy or go to my website KLTherapycom for more information
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