How To Know If A Girl LIKES You (THIS Shows She’s INTO You)

How to know if a girl likes you Hi It is Stephan Erdman here from TooShyToDate.

Come One of the questions I get the most on my newsletter that you can get on at too shy to date dot com is how can I tell if she likes me, how can i tell if she likes me say you have met a girl a few times, you try to.. you know make your move you’re trying to take things to a level where it’s like you as a guy and her as a girl, maybe meet up with her some time and you want to know straight away, won’t know for sure whether she likes you or let’s say you’re dating a girl or you’re talking to a girl you’re having a drink with her.

Whatever and you’re looking at her and you want to figure out, does she like me or not and it seems to be the one big question that naturally most guys think about and you know frankly i know myself you know it’s very easy to slip into that thinking all the time you know and constantly check oh does she like me or not how is she reacting is she really responding in a way that I don’t know I can’t tell at it makes us freeze up and it freaks people out because they get so obsessed with does she like me or not last but sometimes it takes them years to literally do anything with this girl the truth of the matter is i will tell you in a second a reasonably reliable indicator of how much a girl likes you or a how much a girl might be interested in you in a second but before I do that I need to tell you one thing first i don’t think it’s a very useful way of of focusing ok when you’re with a girl here’s the reason I wanna give you a quick example maybe i can ask you a question have you ever been to a job interview something that really matter to you back when you went to work on the job interview and you’ve met with a person and let’s say you thought Oh my god I hope they like me because i hope and you’re checking you know they’re reacting to what you’re saying and you’re constantly trying to figure out whether they like you and whether they a liked what you just said whether you are going to get the job because he really want them to give you the job that you had you know it’s just been you know you are really hoping so you are constantly checking and you’re leaving with a feeling of uh.

I hope they did now if you have ever had a job interview like that and i am sure you have and i certainly have had many interviews where i felt like that which took me years to actually figure out that this might not be a useful thing to be thinking and it actually put me in a weird state now if you remember that last time how did you feel Unless i am completely wrong about humanity and about human beings like you and me then you must have felt needy you must’ve felt nervous you must have felt at least unconsciously seeking approval because you wanted them to like you didn’t you and also you must have felt.

what i would call reaction needy and I call that reaction needy when basically you are saying something and you are constantly checking whether somebody else likes it and checking constantly whether your jokes land whether you said just now what you said just now impressed her and that’s a state of mind that you do not want to be in when you’re with girls now the problem is if you ask yourself all the time does she like me how can i figure it out you’re going to be in that state so that i would say instead and i mean i have made a whole other video about this that some people love and some people don’t get it’s this i really would ask you to focus on how can I have a great time with this girl right now that’s a useful question to ask yourself because it focuses your mind on having a good time here’s the thing if you went into an interview a job interview unit into a job interview and you went in and you’re coming from the mindset of hey i’m good what i’m doing i’m going to be interested whether they their job that they might be offering me is good for me but i’m going to go in for the job interview and have a good time and enjoy the interaction and figure out whether this is a fit or not completely different mindset and would mean that you probably highly likely to to be much more successful than if you go in and go I hope they like me, do they like me will they like me do they like me oh my god am I going to be good enough are you with me and the same thing applies when you meet women you’ve got to go with the mindset of i would recommend strongly that you go with a mindset of i’m going to have a good time with this girl and at the same time you can ask yourself hey let’s see how she reacts to this okay is she going to be as interesting as she looks or is it just a good looking girl let me figure it out so completely different mindset from oh will she like me how can I figure out whether she likes me now i know that at the same time having said all that you’re still going to ask me like ok but how can I really tell if she likes me and so i want to give you my most reliable indicator of whether a girl likes you or not to me I mean there’s so much being said about this like oh her eyes pupils dilate and all kinds of stuff she sits on your lap yes she likes you and so forth but the most reliable indicator i would say is responsiveness the level of her responsiveness what do I mean by that i mean by that that when you do something to her that she responds a good way if u tease her for example that she responds in a way that she either laughs or tries to hit you or whatever that she really responds strongly physically vocally emotionally so when you say something that she may perceive as challenging that she will feel challenged and respond that she’s fully engaged with you when you notice that that you can also lead that you start leading her that she follows along that gives you a good idea that she is starting to feel that male female connection with you and that she feels that slight tension there as well ok and for that to find out about that you need to lead you need to introduce new things and by leading I mean change the subject when you feel like it introduce a new idea or say hey let’s go to this other bar because i want to hang out with you there because they have this great cocktail whatever that you move her from place to place that you initiate things in a conversation that you would initiate things in the conversation that you ask her a little favor or whatever basically that you lead that way you can notice whether she responds and the more responsive she is the more into you she will be on average okay now some women are very responsive generally some women are less responsive now then you need to see it in relation to other people around you you may wanna take her to a place with you and you can see how she responds to other people if if she responds a lot more to you and if she really responds to you a lot differently from other people then you have a good idea that she is into you and whenever you feel ohh she is in to me she is into you okay and also just generally one tip is always you know most men worry far too much about is she into me or not just have fun with her focus on having a great time and just assume she’s into you that’s really the way that but most men who are naturally good with women think you know they just assume generally that women are into you and i have found that to be honest i mean now I just assume the same basically and it makes everything very easy because it just induces in women that they are into you very often okay and they will but you have to lead and you have to actually just do things that will make her respond you can’t just wait for her to initiate everything you can’t wait for her to give you five thousand signs okay you have to be the guy that is leading alright I hope that’s useful i hope you got a lot of that because i threw a lot of 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